Last Updated on May 11, 2025 by Cindy Benezra

The holidays can be a challenging time for many of us. Between feelings of loneliness, the weight of expectations, and the disruption of our usual routines, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. If that resonates with you, please remember you’re not alone—and there are ways to protect and support your mental well-being during this season. 

While I look forward to the holidays to connect with family and friends, I also know that the season always comes with challenges, and I try my best to enter the season prepared with some techniques to keep me grounded. 

Here’s a simple 10-step guide to help you prioritize your mental health this holiday season.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

It’s okay to not feel cheerful during the holidays. Ignoring your emotions won’t make them go away—take time to sit with and process how you feel. Journaling, speaking to someone you trust, or even simply naming your emotions privately can be powerful.

Tip: Start a daily reflection practice. Write down three emotions you’re feeling today without judgment. Acknowledging them is the first step to managing them.

2. Create Your Own Traditions

If traditional holidays trigger negative memories or stress, consider starting your own rituals. Whether it’s a cozy movie marathon, baking cookies for yourself, or spending the day volunteering, it’s empowering to design a holiday experience that brings you joy.

Tip: Ask yourself, “What makes me feel good during this time of year?” Build traditions around those answers.

3. Set Boundaries with Grace

You are not obligated to say “yes” to every invitation or request. Establishing boundaries is an act of self-care, not selfishness. Be honest with others about what you can handle and communicate respectfully.

Tip: Practice saying, “I appreciate the invite, but I need to prioritize some rest right now. Thank you for understanding.”

4. Identify Financial Stressors and Plan Ahead

One of the biggest sources of holiday stress is financial pressure. Authentic connection does not require a hefty price tag. Consider low-cost or handmade gift alternatives, or focus on quality time rather than material exchanges.

Tip: Create a “gift budget” and stick to it. Alternatively, suggest a no-gift holiday celebration or Secret Santa arrangement to reduce financial stress.

5. Balance Solitude with Connection

Feelings of isolation can be amplified during the holidays, especially if you’re far from loved ones. While solitude can be nurturing, it’s important to find moments of connection, too—whether online or in person.

Tip: Join an online forum or community for those experiencing similar feelings. Platforms like Reddit or Facebook groups often have spaces dedicated to connection during the holidays. We have a CindyTalks Facebook group we’d love for you to join!

6. Explore Mindfulness Activities

The holiday rush can leave many of us feeling frantic or unfocused. Mindfulness can anchor you in the present, offering relief from a swirling mind. Practices like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle yoga can help you reset.

Tip: Take 5 minutes each morning for focused breathing—inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4, and exhale for 4.

Resources: Try apps like Calm, Headspace, or Insight Timer for guided mindfulness exercises.

7. Plan a Day for Yourself

Carve out time during the season to indulge in something that brings you pure enjoyment. Whether it’s a long walk in nature, reading your favorite book, or simply having a quiet evening with hot cocoa, this day is about you.

Tip: Mark your self-care day on the calendar like any other important event. Protect that time.

8. Focus on Nourishment, Not Perfection

Between indulgent meals and disrupted routines, many people feel guilt around their holiday habits. Give yourself permission to enjoy without judgment while seeking overall balance. Aim for nourishment, not perfection.

Tip: Set small, achievable goals like adding a serving of vegetables to one meal a day or drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated.

9. Reach Out for Help When Needed

If the holidays feel particularly heavy, ask for help. There is strength in seeking support, whether from friends, family, or mental health professionals. You don’t have to face things alone.

Resources: Crisis Text Line (Text HOME to 741741) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or local mental health support groups or counselors in your area.

10. Practice Gratitude in Small Moments

While gratitude won’t magically erase your struggles, it can bring a sense of calm to the moment. Focus on small things—a crisp morning breeze, a kind message from a friend, or the comfort of a favorite blanket.

Tips: Each night, jot down one thing you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be big; even the smallest joys matter.

Upon first waking, smile. My mood instantly changes when I smile after opening my eyes in the morning. It signals to my mind that I am thankful for another opportunity to live another day.

Remember, You’re Not Alone

It’s a myth that the holidays have to be perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist, and the pressure to achieve it can harm your mental health. Instead, focus on what feels meaningful to you and take each day as it comes.

If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, reach out for guidance or connection. The holidays may have their challenges, but with small, intentional practices, you can make space for moments of peace and ease. Take care of yourself. You deserve it. ❤️