Over a year ago, I asked my father if he would be willing for me to interview and record him about his life. I felt emotionally prepared going into each interview, but I underestimated how much it would take out of me. Each time I interviewed him, I learned more disturbing details. As the words…
Every other week, I stop by my father’s retirement home, to refill his pill boxes. I have always managed his medications and find it to be a straight forward process and a simple way to care for him. I hadn’t seen him for weeks because I had been traveling, but in part, because I didn’t…
I’ve had multiple people comment on my composure in the video interviews of my father. To prepare for the interviews, I anticipated all the ways that my composure could affect him, and I made a conscious effort to remain calm and poised. I wanted my father’s responses to not be influenced by my tone of…
Getting my father to admit to molesting me as a child, as well as other children, was not an easy thing to do, but when he decided to open up, I was caught off guard. I’m not sure if I wore him down over the years in search of an admission of what he did,…
The first time I shared with my husband, Mark, that I had been sexually abused as child was within the first few months of when we started dating. I wanted him to know about even the most painful parts of my life. He had lots of questions which I was prepared for, but I was…